Living the Dream

8-4-17Welcome back to the world of Ben! Lately, his world has revolved around his little brother, Andrew. If you haven’t already, you can see some pics of the new brothers by clicking here.

I’ll admit that originally, I was a little concerned how Ben would adapt to sharing time with a newborn. For the past ten years, Ben has enjoyed being the center of attention, being an only child and with no cousins near his age on our side of the family. I wanted to make sure that he felt included and got plenty of one-on-one time once Andrew arrived.

Now, after three weeks, I feel kind of silly for worrying about it. Ben has been utterly obsessed with his new brother, wholeheartedly jumping into the role of the older sibling. Any concerns were erased when Ben told me, “You know, people were asking me if I was ready for my younger brother to get all the attention? I just told them, of course I’m ready, that’s how it should be! He should get all of the attention!” And that’s exactly how Ben has approached things as all of our schedules have been thrown into disarray these past several weeks. We have still made time to play video games and Minecraft, but Ben hasn’t complained one bit about all of the times we have had to stop what we are doing to tend to his baby brother. In fact, it’s been just the opposite, with Ben often times throwing out suggestions for things to do with his brother, or asking to just sit and hold him for a bit.

And apparently, Ben has been preparing for and thinking about this for awhile now. Months before Andrew’s arrival, Ben was already planning and shopping for him, picking out clothes and stuffed animals to give him. Just the other day, he was excited to bring over two new outfits that he had helped pick out for his little brother…he couldn’t wait to have him wear them! The dinosaur pajamas in this week’s photo was one of Ben’s picks. You could say that being a big brother has been on Ben’s bucket list for a long time now. Ben explained it to us a little the other night, saying” You know, when Andrew was born, I felt like I finally won the battle between being an only child, and having a little brother or sister that I have always dreamed of!”

You keep living that dream Ben. Andrew is lucky to have the best big brother around!



Welcome back! Finally, at long last, Ben can now say he is a big brother. Two weeks ago today, Ben’s little brother, Andrew, introduced himself to us. He was two weeks early, but I have a feeling that Ben didn’t mind at all, as he has been beyond excited to meet him. First things first we are starting a blog for Andrew that we invite you to read in addition to Ben’s. You can find it here. Also, in celebration of his arrival, and Ben’s new brother status, I have posted a new photo gallery of the two guys bonding for the first time, which you can see here.

Ben requested the photo above, of Andrew’s hand in his. Only two weeks in, its pretty clear that Ben is going to make the best big brother. The day of Andrew’s birth, Ben waited patiently for hours at the hospital. When plans changed, and Andrew came via c-section, Ben was able to see him in the special care nursery, but once again had to wait for his chance to hold him. When that moment finally came, words can’t describe the smile on Ben’s face as he held his brother for the first time.

In the day’s since, it has just been one sweet moment after another. We cam home to hand-made signs that Ben had created to welcome us and Andrew home. Ben has wanted to hold Andrew every chance that he can get, and is already stocking up books and toys that he wants to share with him. He has even gone back through some of his own baby items and hand-picked things that Andrew might like, such as bibs and slippers.

Now that all of the waiting is over, our house finally feels full when both Ben and Andrew are here together. Of course, a newborn baby demands constant attention and time, and through these last two weeks, Ben has been nothing but patient and caring. I know he hasn’t gotten as much time as he is accustomed to with us, which makes how he has handled himself all the more impressive. He is ready at a moment’s notice to lend a hand with his little brother, no matter what the ask is. Ben and I had a memorable adventure changing Andrew’s diaper together last weekend. He never once complained or got grossed out, even when he informed me “Dad, I think you have some poop on your wrist!”

I know I can’t wait to watch Ben grow into his big brother role over these next several years. He is already scoring goals in his soccer game dedicated to Andrew, and he has created several videos set to music of photos of himself and his brother. It warms my heart to see how Ben has taken to the little guy and how much he already cares for him. I will definitely want to capture every one of those moments here, so get ready as a brand new chapter in the Life and Times of Baby Ben is about to get underway!

7-12-17Hi everyone, hope you are all enjoying the summer as much as Ben is. I don’t know where the time has gone, but somehow Ben’s cousin Eleanor has turned two months old since the last post! To be fair, we are stuck in our own weird sense of the passage of time here, as we await the arrival of Ben’s new little brother. For weeks we were rushing to get things ready, and now time seems to have slowed to a crawl as we are just weeks away from meeting him. Needless to say, Ben is getting just as impatient as the rest of us!

But in that time, life has gone on, and Ben has kept very busy. To weeks ago, we travelled to the beaches of Wildwood for a big beach soccer tournament with Ben’s coach and team. It was an awesome experience especially for Ben, but also for me. We spent several days down on the beach playing soccer, playing with friends at our hotel, on the boardwalk and in the water and amusement parks.

For me, it was a little bittersweet. In years past, Ben would have been asking me to swim in the pool or play games or go on rides. But this time, he spent the entire weekend glued to his friends and having fun with them. I suddenly had some free time to sit and relax on the motel balcony and just watch for the first time. It was a strange feeling, forcing me to realize he is really growing up. But it also made me smile, as I remembered all of the summer fun and memories that I had with my friends when I was his age.Besides a few of those mixed emotions for Dad, it was an awesome weekend. Ben’s team ended up going 1-1-1 for the weekend in some hard-fought games in the sand. We were already talking about next year as we packed up to head home. And the soccer continues, as Ben is now playing in a 3 vs. 3 league over the next several weeks.

Last week, we also celebrated one of my favorite days of the year, the 4th of July. You can go back through past year’s posts to read about what a family tradition this family is, and how much it means to me. This year was no different, and once again it started with the historic local parade. What was different, was that Ben and I got to ride in the back of a truck as part of a float for our church, dressed as super heroes! It lent a new perspective to the parade, and I had a blast with my little sidekick as we flexed and waved to the cheering crowd.

After the parade, it was on to the annual BBQ at my parents house. I was impressed with how Ben made the rounds. Every time I turned around, he seemed to be playing a different game with a different group of friends or family. He was non-stop, moving continuously from swimming, to badminton, to ladder ball, to bean bags, to ping-pong, to nerd gun wars. To top off the day, we had our very own fireworks display in the driveway. It wasn’t anything fantastic, but we laughed and impressed ourselves as we lit up our own show. As is true every year, it was another fun day filled with family and friends that Ben now looks forward to every year almost as much as I do.

And now, here we are, less than 3 weeks out from the big due date, and in a holding pattern. Ben has started practicing holding his baby brother, and moving him from a chair to a crib by using one of his stuffed animals as a stand-in. He excitedly got to feel his brother moving in Maggie’s belly the other night, and the look on his face was priceless. So as the summer floats on, we all are treading water, anxiously waiting to welcome the newest member to our family. In the meantime, we’ll just have to follow Ben’s lead, and keep trying to make the most of the summer!


Ben and Eleanor

6-2-17I have been admittedly terrible about keeping up with the blog these past few months. So Ben (if you are reading this years from now), Im sorry if I missed any major milestones during this time, although, I’m fairly certain its been relatively smooth sailing and we’ve covered the big stuff.

However, there are some milestones that I simply can’t skip over, this being one of them: Ben (along with the rest of us) got to welcome his new baby cousin, Eleanor, into the world! Ben has been so excited for his new cousin (and soon, his new brother), and it has been really sweet watching him get to hold her and spend some time with her. I know he is anxious for when she can actually “play” with him, but in the meantime, Ben has made due by reading some of his old favorite books to her.

There is something that just feels ‘right’ about having an Eleanor in our family again, as her name comes from Ben’s great-grandmother (Mommom to me). Even more so, because Ben was named after Mommom’s husband, Bender (Poppop to me). So now, in a way, Ben and Eleanor are here again. I like to think that Mommom and Poppop are both looking down and smiling at that.

So Ben is getting some good practice in for when he will soon become a big brother. And in the meantime, he has been his usual busy self. Spring travel soccer season came to a close, and Ben went out with a bang, scoring goals in his final 3 games (one of them being a penalty kick). Despite a number of rained out games, it was a fun season, and we were all super proud at the improvement in Ben just from last fall. He is like a whole new player out there! And he was excited to have a large cheering section of family in the crowd for the last game. Next up, we travel to the shore for a weekend-long soccer tournament on the beach in late June, and then 3 vs 3 soccer in July. Like I said, he keeps busy!

Ben has also been hard at work creating his own YouTube channel (Please message me privately if you would like to check it out, as we are still being careful about what he puts out there publicly). Ben took it upon himself to create his own channel, where he films, edits, scores, and uploads his own videos (sometimes daily), about all the topics that are most important to him. Some days he will walk you through tutorials for his favorite game, Minecraft. Other days he will show you his newest Pokemon, or test how fast his new fidget spinner spin (if this all sounds like another language to you, don’t worry, I’m still trying to figure it all out myself!).

Through watching other on Youtube, and learning from videos, Ben has impressively taught himself how to edit clips together, use animations, and even create and add his own music (he told me he had to create his own so that he didn’t run into any copyright issues if he used someone else’s song!). And Ben has big goals, with millions of subscribers to his channel, and millions of dollars in mind. I encouraged him to keep having fun and more subscribers would come, but that it takes time and work to spread the word, thinking that maybe he didn’t get how you grow an audience on YouTube. In response he texted me a link to an article he had already found (and read) called “How to Make Money on YouTube”! Not only that, but he took a lunch meeting with one of his more artistic classmates at school to discuss a logo design for his channel. When I suggested that he might know someone who could do a professional logo for him, it took him a second for him to realize that maybe good old Dad could be of some help! No matter what, he is being super creative and having fun making his YouTube videos, and learning a lot along the way. So definitely shoot me a message or email if you would like to check him out?

All in all, life is good, Ben is busy, another school year is coming to an end, and most importantly, our family is growing! We all love getting to know baby Eleanor, and can’t wait to meet Ben’s new sibling in a couple short months. And it’s always nice to think, that while their names are carried on in these young members of our family, that the original Bender and Eleanor are watching and with us for all of the fun as well!


Happy 10th birthday to Ben! Time just seems to be speeding up, and I’m not sure when that little baby on the left turned into that young man on the right. To me, Ben is just Ben, he seems to have always been as he is in the current moment. Its not until I look back through the old photos and movies that it really sinks in just how much he has grown, and just how fast that time has gone by.

These days, Ben is busy finishing up the fourth grade, working hard on the soccer field with his travel team, creating his own Youtube channel, randomly dressing “business casual”, learning to play piano, and writing his own stories. That little baby in the photo on the left has come a long way!

That picture is the first photos of Ben posted to this blog. At that time, I had no idea what kind of person he would become, what he would be into, what kind of personality he would have. He was brand new, and we were all just glad to finally meet him. It seems weird to think back to a time when I was still getting to know Ben.

Flash forward ten years, and it feels like I have known Ben all my life. He is this funny, smart, caring, silly, fun-loving little person. He lights up all of our lives, and its hard to remember a time when he wasn’t here, even though it was just a little over ten years ago. It’s also just as hard to imagine what he will be like in another ten years. What kind of adult will he grow into, where will he be, what will he be doing, what journey will he be on?

Its crazy enough to realize Ben is now ten….its down right scary to start picturing him at twenty! So for now, I choose to love and enjoy every minute with this little ten-year old. Don’t grow up too fast, Ben, but as you do, I can’t wait to be along for the ride every step of the way. Love you buddy, happy birthday!

Big Brother Prep

3-3-17So, we’ve been a little busy around here lately, there is a lot going on. For 2017, our family is growing, and Ben couldn’t be more excited by the news!

First, he can’t wait to gain yet another cousin. Aunt Devon and Uncle Richard will be welcoming baby ‘Sprout’ this spring, and Ben is excited to meet his younger cousin.

And following soon after, Ben will get to take on the role of big brother, when Daddy and Maggie welcome baby ‘Peanut’ later this summer. Ben has been asking for a little brother or sister for awhile now, so to say he is excited by the news would be an understatement.

Ben was happy to hear he would be welcoming a baby brother, but the best thing was he didn’t care if it would be a brother or sister. Ben was just looking forward to playing the role of big brother. He even helped us plan out how we would announce the baby’s gender to Nana and Poppop and Aunt Devon and Uncle Richard. As soon as he found out himself, he has immediately been planning for his baby sibling. To start, Ben went through some of his old books and toys and picked out things that baby Peanut might like. He also went through some of his old baby clothes to pick out some hand-me-downs for his little brother.

But Ben hasn’t stopped there. He recently picked out and purchased a stuffed animal for the baby, proudly presenting it to us as his first gift for the little guy. Ben even gave Maggie and I a couple of his stuffed animals that he deemed ‘baby-sized’ so that we could all practice the proper way to hold a baby! It’s so cute to hear him constantly asking how big the baby is now, or to say goodbye to Peanut when he leaves us.

I have no doubt that Ben will be the best big brother, and it warms my heart to see how excited and loving he already is towards his baby brother. Besides thinking of things to show and teach him, Ben talks about reading to him, or thinks of ways that he could help Maggie while she is busy caring for the baby. I think Ben has already gone around the house looking for possible hazards for baby Peanut, and telling me that we need to get those little outlet protector covers! This kid is too much! Ben has even looked way into the future and talked about how by the time his brother is his age, Ben could pick him up from school for us.It has all been really fun to watch and hear.

So the preparation for baby Peanut will probably continue to take up a good part of this blog, as it has become a big part of Ben’s life right now. But there is plenty of other stuff that Ben has going on, too, so check back for all the updates as spring soccer season is about to start, and Ben has plenty more adventures with his friends and families coming up!

Rolling into 2017

Looking back through the blog, you start to see some of the same posts repeating each year, making fun to see how times change. Outside of holidays, birthdays and yearly vacations, there is one recurring post that I always look forward to each year. Realizing I have missed a few weeks to start 2017, there was no way that I could leave out the Car Show post!

If they had blogs 30-some years ago, you probably would have seen my dad posting about taking me to the Car Show. Every year, in the middle of winter, I always looked forward to that trip with my dad into the city to see and explore all of the cars. As I grew older, friends started making the trip with us, but it was always at its core a dad and son event. So of course, when Ben came along, we didn’t waste anytime introducing him to the tradition.

Its been quite a few years since Ben made his first trip to the show in his stroller. This year, he was on a mission to find his favorite car, the Nissan GT-R (shown above). He wasn’t disappointed, as he brought his phone along to snap a number of photos of his sporty favorite.I told Ben if he wanted one, he better keep doing well in school and get a good job, as this particular model had a sticker price of $112,000. Ben informed me that I shouldn’t worry, because two of his favorite YouTube stars each have a GT-R, so it was all part of his plan.

One thing that hasn’t changed is Ben’s curiosity with even the most mundane details of some of the cars. We were checking out a lot of SUVs, and while I was busy sitting in the driver’s seat, Ben was more concerned with figuring out how to open the tailgates so he could see how much storage space was available! He has also never lost his interest in opening every single cubby and hidden storage panel that he could find in each vehicle.

This year, we were also on a mission to find pop pop his Lexus SUV.It may have been those Christmas commercials where someone gets a Lexus with a big red bow as a surprise gift, but Poppop has really been focused on these luxury SUVs as of late. We found them at the show, and Poppop got a good look at his dream ride up close. For fun we even sent a picture to Nana and told her Poppop had made a purchase and was driving home in one. That wouldn’t be as much of a surprise as you think…as every time I have gone car shopping with Poppop, we have driven home in a new car!

But the real fun of the car show for us is the tradition. Without fail, I always get Ben to pose for a picture with a Camaro. And Poppop always finds a display of custom rims to have Ben pose in front of. You will see these same shots back through the previous Auto Show posts on here…all the way back to a few of Ben in his stroller checking out the cars. Between me and my dad, I’m not sure if we have missed a show in the last 35 years or so. But now, we mostly just let Ben lead the way, and enjoy watching him get excited and hear him talk about all of the different cars and features that he discovers.

This year was no different, as the three of us had a great night together, full of lots of memories, new and old.As we piled into my car for the ride home, we talked about our favorites and listened to Ben go on about the GT-R and how he was going to show the kids at school the photos he took on his phone. I couldn’t help thinking about how times have changed, and also how much they have stayed the same… just us guys checking out some cool cars. And then it occurred to me, that next year this annual trip will evolve a little more, as we will have a new little guy joining us for the Car Show. At this time next year, Ben will have a new  little brother to lead around the show…and the tradition continues. But more on that little bit of news next week!